I work with many moms who are motivated high-achievers. They’re going to the top and stand out in their circles. But did you know they still have a common worry… “Am I a good mom?”
Ok, you already know there are thousands of articles and podcasts that address this- many preying on women’s fears just so they can get likes and shares- and the good ones still hose you down with so much information you’re overwhelmed! I’d like to quickly scroll past those opinions and skip to what makes a good mom.
A mom who is there.
Kids are born with a deep desire to win their parents’ approval. Simply by your presence, they are reassured that you value them.
Now, this doesn’t mean you have to be with them every waking moment! Even you understand that when a person looks back at their childhood, they will not remember it all. Studies show that we only remember certain points! The Peak-End rule is a good example of this, if you want to go down the rabbit hole of memory research. What matters is that your child sees, hears, and feels your presence during the important moments of their life.
In life, there are times that experts agree are important - accomplishments, sickness, heartbreak, change - but there is also a way that you can CREATE important moments for your child to remember!
It’s called “Flipping The Script”. It’s the unexpected! Showing up to share a school lunch. The unplanned manicure together; the trip to GameStop for no reason. These acts seem small, and they don’t need to happen often to be effective. It’s the gift of surprise and the gift of yourself that magically meld, forming a remarkable memory.
It’s me, with my fabulous four. This photo is from Mother’s Day 2020 so if you’re reading this much later- wow- my kids have changed!
Early on at my studio, I noticed that many kids get a sort of “entertainer complex” or star-struck shyness when they’re suddenly the center of attention in front of the lights and camera. Depending on their personality and age, they may get the wiggle-giggles, or give me such a funny look they cause themselves to laugh. It’s contagious, and Mom starts laughing, too. In a flash, a memory is made because it’s unexpected and funny.
What makes it even more powerful is the resulting photograph, which allows you to relive that moment over and over.
Siblings sharing a secret joke in the studio.
There are many things that audaciously demand your time and your focus. It’s up to us to choose what matters- what is truly important to us. If you’re overwhelmingly busy but longing to be more present for your child, let me introduce the idea that a Portrait Session can flip the script and make a magic moment for your child.
Next steps- call me, and blurt out your biggest concern when it comes to professional photography!
I’m not a big corporation- it’s me. I answer my own phone, and my clients are real, ordinary people of the Ozarks who range from long-time family portrait enthusiasts to first-time portrait beginners who have no idea what to expect. Every stage is fun, and it starts with a phone call! The studio number is 417-658-8865.
I need to find out one thing- what’s holding you back from bringing your kids in for pictures? Let’s find the answer!