I work with many moms who are motivated high-achievers. They’re going to the top and stand out in their circles. But did you know they still have a common worry… “Am I a good mom?”
Ok, you already know there are thousands of articles and podcasts that address this- many preying on women’s fears just so they can get likes and shares- and the good ones still hose you down with so much information you’re overwhelmed! I’d like to quickly scroll past those opinions and skip to what makes a good mom.
A mom who is there.
Kids are born with a deep desire to win their parents’ approval. Simply by your presence, they are reassured that you value them.
Now, this doesn’t mean you have to be with them every waking moment! Even you understand that when a person looks back at their childhood, they will not remember it all. Studies show that we only remember certain points! The Peak-End rule is a good example of this, if you want to go down the rabbit hole of memory research. What matters is that your child sees, hears, and feels your presence during the important moments of their life.
In life, there are times that experts agree are important - accomplishments, sickness, heartbreak, change - but there is also a way that you can CREATE important moments for your child to remember!
It’s called “Flipping The Script”. It’s the unexpected! Showing up to share a school lunch. The unplanned manicure together; the trip to GameStop for no reason. These acts seem small, and they don’t need to happen often to be effective. It’s the gift of surprise and the gift of yourself that magically meld, forming a remarkable memory.